REGRET

According to Wikipedia,

Regret is a negative conscious and emotional reaction to personal past acts and behaviors. Regret is often expressed by the term “sorry.” Regret is often a feeling of sadnessshameembarrassmentdepressionannoyance, or guilt, after one acts in a manner and later wishes not to have done so. Regret is distinct from guilt, which is a deeply emotional form of regret — one which may be difficult to comprehend in an objective or conceptual way. In this regard, the concept of regret is subordinate to guilt in terms of its emotional intensity. By comparison, shame typically refers to the social (rather than personal) aspect of guilt or (in minor context) regret as imposed by the society or culture (enforcement of ethicsmorality), which has substantial bearing in matters of (personal and social) honor.

It is also distinct from remorse, which is a more direct and emotional form of regret over a past action that is considered by society to be hurtful, shameful, or violent. Unlike regret, it includes a strong element of desire for apology to others rather than an internal reflection on one’s actions, and may be expressed (sincerely or not) in order to reduce the punishment one receives.

Regret can describe not only the dislike for an action that has been committed, but also, importantly, regret of inaction. Many people find themselves wishing that they had done something in a past situation.

 

And the best part is…..

According to Psychological point of view, 

“People who suffer from Antisocial personality disorder and Dissocial Personality Disorder are incapable of feeling regret or remorse”

 

Haha… will share about my regrets later…

What to Say When You Have No Idea What to Say Because “There, there, it’ll be okay,” only works on 5-year-olds. By Amy Shearn

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When your best friend interviews for her dream job—and doesn’t get it:

“You are more than this situation. You are more than this job. You are more than your work life.” Don’t waste her time with any dreck about how this job wouldn’t have actually been her dream job. That’s not nearly the point. You know it. She knows it. And that cannot be helped. But what you can help her with is regaining her sense of perspective.

 

When your sister’s husband moves out:

You knew your literature major would come in handy eventually; and here it is, finally, the time to quote Rilke. “Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.” We all have moments of pain that seem inescapable. And sometimes that pain is so impressively awful, so soul-crushingly terrible, that there is nothing to do but to feel it. And to remember (and most of us will need the poet’s help with this one) that there is some small salvation in the feeling of it, in living in enough crazy Technicolor-bright emotion, that there are high highs and low lows, that life might not always be pleasant but your emotions today aren’t going to be the same ones you’re having a year from now.

 

When your favourite co-worker has the Worst Day Ever:

“Three words, honey: Mar-ga-rita.” A Worst-Day-Ever veteran doesn’t want your thoughtful analysis of her boss’s side of the story, or even a to-do list for How To Make Tomorrow Better. And whatever you do, don’t suggest a juice fast, or Bikram yoga, or even that great book about being happier everyday. Not now. Not tonight. Let her vent. Listen. Sympathize. And buy the next round.

 

When the start-up your cousin works for is sold for millions of dollars:

“How are you feeling about that?” Sometimes something exciting can also be scary. Your cousin’s bosses may have just made a lot of money, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s rolling in it. It means that her company is in upheaval, that her livelihood is uncertain, that her near future will be defined by change.

 

When someone you care about loses someone she cared about:

“I wish I could fix this. I can’t. It’s terrible.” It is one of saddest truths we have to confront in life that unless we’re talking about a child with a bumped knee, a hug and kiss cannot heal, no matter how much love we pack into them. But you don’t have to pretend. You don’t have to act like you have the existential hug and kiss to make this situation better. She knows you don’t. What you can give is you, the comfort of your presence. The temporary balm of not-aloneness.

 

When your partner says he wants to quit his job:

“Do you want to go for a walk?” Sometimes it’s easier to talk things through when you’re not sitting there staring at each other, and sometimes just the sheer, simple animal action of moving forward helps your mind-gears to chug forward, too. Is your husband feeling stuck in his job, stalled in his career, unable to work through a major life-puzzle? This is not a conversation to have while stuck in a diner booth or kitchen chair. What you need is a long, winding walk through the world.

 

When you see a long-lost high school buddy and she’s lost a ton of weight:

“It’s so great to see you. How have you been?”—with a smile. For it is just way too easy to go wrong here. “Whoa, you look so great!” sounds like a compliment, looks like a compliment, smells like a compliment, but…it implies the opposite, You used to not look great. If someone has been working hard to drop pounds, she will appreciate the opportunity to discuss the change. If someone is dealing with an unfortunate medical condition, this gives her a chance to share, if she is so inclined. Because after all, you don’t know what’s really going on. A friend of mine suffered a terrible breakup, became depressed, couldn’t eat and lost weight, only to have people say,”Wow, you look so great! What did you do?”

 

When someone tells you she’s given up:

“I know you’re feeling hopeless, and to ask you to feel hopeful is too much.” This is a two-parter, are you ready? Because then you must say, “Let me carry your hope for you.” And then, friend, you must actually do it.

 

Amy Shearn is the author of The Mermaid of Brooklyn: A Novel

Skin and Beauty Glossary

To care for your skin, it helps to know the lingo of dermatology conditions, treatments, and beauty products. Here is the essential glossary to help you get clued in.
By Eleanor Roberts, PhD Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH

 

Acne conglobata: Type of acne in which interconnected nodules are located beneath the surface of the skin.

Acne mechanica: Acne caused by exposure to heat, covered skin, pressure, or repetitive friction.

Acne vulgaris: The most common type of acne, associated with blackheads, whiteheads, papules, and pustules, commonly referred to as pimples or zits.

Actinic keratoses: Precancerous growths that can appear red, thick, and rough; usually found on sun-damaged skin.

Age spots: Flat, brownish patches on the skin caused by sun exposure and perhaps aging; also known as “liver spots.”

Alopecia: Unusual hair loss, most often on the scalp.

Alpha hydroxy acids (AHAs): Exfoliating ingredients derived from fruit and milk sugars and used to help reduce the appearance of wrinkles and age spots.

Antioxidants: Vitamins A (including beta carotene), C, and E, thought to repair and protect skin cells by neutralizing damaging free radicals.

Atopic: When an antibody present in the skin makes someone more likely to experience allergic reactions.

Basal cell carcinoma: Type of skin cancer that forms at the base of the epidermis of the skin and usually does not spread to other parts of the body; associated with long-term overexposure to the sun.

Benzoyl peroxide: Topical acne treatment that kills acne-causing bacteria.

Blackhead: A clogged pore usually filled with hardened oil and dead skin cells; the tip is visible at the pore opening.

Blepharoplasty: Cosmetic procedure to remove excess fat and skin from around the eyes.

Chemical peel: Chemical solution applied to the skin to remove damaged outer layers.

Dermabrasion: Procedure in which a rotating brush is used to abrade, or remove, the outer surface of the skin.

Dermatitis: Inflammation of the skin.

Dermis: The middle layer of the skin.

Eczema: Inflammatory response in the skin that can lead to redness, itching, and scaling.

Epidermis: The outer layer of the skin.

Exfoliate: To slough off the outer layer of skin cells.

Follicle: A shaft in the skin through which hair grows.

Isotretinoin (Accutane and other brand names): Oral vitamin A-based medication used to treat severe acne.

Laser resurfacing: Laser procedure to remove signs of aging, including fine lines, wrinkles, and age spots.

Melanin: A chemical in the body that gives skin and hair their unique color.

Melanoma: Life-threatening form of skin cancer that usually develops in an existing mole.

Mole: Pigmented skin lesion also known as a nevus.

Noncomedogenic: A product not likely to clog pores and cause acne lesions.

Papule: Acne lesion that appears as a small, red bump on the skin.

Photo-aging: Skin damage that results from prolonged overexposure to the sun.

Phototherapy: Artificial ultraviolet (UV) radiation treatment for some skin diseases.

Plaque: Raised, but relatively flat, patch of skin.

Psoriasis: Skin condition characterized by red, raised, scaly patches.

Pustule: Inflamed acne lesion containing pus.

Retinoids: Derivatives of vitamin A used to treat a variety of skin conditions.

Rosacea: Skin condition characterized by prominent spider veins and sometimes swelling.

Sclerotherapy: Treatment that reduces the appearance of varicose veins and spider veins by injecting them with a special solution.

Sebaceous glands: Oil-producing glands in the skin that are attached to hair follicles.

Seborrheic dermatitis: Scalp condition associated with itching and flakiness (dandruff) that can also occur on the face.

Skin biopsy: Diagnostic procedure in which a portion of the skin is removed for examination in a laboratory.

Spider veins: Small reddish or purplish sunburst-shaped veins under the skin.

Squamous cell carcinoma: Type of skin cancer that forms in outer layers of the skin, capable of spreading to other parts of the body, and associated with long-term overexposure to the sun.

Subcutis: The layer of fat beneath the skin.

Telogen effluvium: Hair loss that is temporary, often related to stress, illness, or recent childbirth.

Topical: A product applied on the skin.

Tretinoin: Topical retinoid used to treat acne by unclogging pores; also used to lessen signs of photo-aging.

Ultraviolet light: The sun’s UVA and UVB rays that can cause both skin damage and skin cancers.

Urticaria: Raised reddish, itchy areas, also called hives.

Varicose veins: Large blood vessels that appear as blue bulges beneath the skin; may be associated with swelling, pain, and other symptoms.

Whitehead: Closed acne lesion caused by a clogged hair follicle.

Smart Phone vs. Smart People

It’s a must for every one of us to own a smart phone.
Or maybe more than 1???
I do understand why smart phones becomes necessity
nowadays.. Yes.. can email, make calls, take photo, browsing,
send photo, whatsapp. wechat bla bla bla..

but what makes me wonder is the user of the smart phone!!
They are not smart enough.. (to me at least)
Haha..

i travel using public transport to work daily and i find it
very interesting while travelling in it.

Some listens to music, some sleeping, some reading but
MOSTYLY are playing GAMES!!!!

OMG!!! Games??? Duhh…
Ha hAh ha…

Come on people… use it smartly…

No Offense people.. just stating what is obvious that happen in front of my very sexy eyes…
wink..wink…

It’s a heartache…

Surely you will have the uneasy feeling when you had sudden flashbacks on your past love life…

oh yes.. i know that feeling.. especially when knowing that he’s happy with his family and you still stuck here feeling lonely..

i don’t normally do  this but i looked into my ex schoolmate sweetheart’s Facebook and saw his latest photo… lucky i don’t know how to reach him… haha!!

but i don’t plan to break any marriages ya…

and then the gloomy feeling comes… oh it hurts… it hurts so bad…

i pray hard that one day, God will grant me the husband that i deserve to spend my life with….